Thursday, February 13, 2025

Winding Up Another Week - UPDATE

 Hello all.  Another cold and blustery day here.  It seems we missed 98% of the nastiness yesterday in my area.  Had a little rain, which caused a little black ice.  They had everything salted yesterday early - so that hopefully helped.


Good conversation this week.  You guys all added some very good ideas and tips.  I love how everyone tries to help each other.
I think the one big thing to take from this week, is that we all have to look outside the box, more often than not.  There are many options and ways to solve any problem.  Nothing etched in stone.
You have to do whatever works for you and your family and your budget.
No one thing fits all.

No big post this morning.  I need to try to get ahold of my Vet to see if they can see Blackie.  I am not holding out hope with them, may need to go to emergency care.  He has stopped eating and drinking.  He is hungry I can tell, when he tries to get down the slightest watered-down gravy even - he gags and spits it up.  He has declined a lot in the past few days.  Poor baby may be at his end, not sure.  I have had this happen a couple other times with babies, and it didn't have a good outcome. 
I know I have given him a good life in the past year plus!  I sure hope there is something I can do.  Please think good thoughts.

Have a lovely day and spread happiness and joy.

UPDATE:  BLACKIE 
It did not turn out good.  Vet got him right in, did tests and checked him.  BAD infection in gums and then there were cancer lesions in his mouth as well.  His mouth looked horrible (pictures) - he wouldn't let me look.  No wonder the poor boy couldn't eat.  2 scenarios - neither good.
Extreme and radical surgery which may/probably not help and would be very traumatic.  No guarantee he would ever heal and/or not be in continued pain.   They really didn't even want to entertain surgery - my decision.  OR forever sleep.
I couldn't put him through all that and not know he would be free of pain or would even survive it.  
He has now crossed the Rainbow Bridge.  I am broken hearted - but know he is pain free now and running in paradise.
I think Bits knows something - I came home, and he was sitting in the exact spot I picked Blackie up from on the bed when leaving this morning.  He just looked sad.  He is curled up next to me now.
Oh my sweet, sweet big boy - I hope he enjoyed this last season of life.  I tried to make it the best for him.
Just feeling lost.  I will miss him so much.

47 comments:

  1. I'm sorry to hear about Blackie being so ill, and hope you are able to get him to a Vet today. Maybe they can fit him in at your Veterinarians office sometime today. You are a very loving parent to Blackie and Bits, and all of the other wildlife you care for. A special person. Prayers for Blackie, and you.

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  2. Prayers for you and Blackie and Bits. I hope it's an easy outcome and he recovers well.

    MaryB

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  3. Oh Cheryl I'm so sorry to hear Blackie has declined. I hope everything turns out ok. Loosing a fur friend is so hard. Sending hugs and prayers.

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  4. Prayers for a positive outcome for Blackie. I know you've given him his best life and have made him comfortable. Hugs across the miles.

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  5. My prayers join with yours for Blackie and hope your Vet can see him today. Cookie

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  6. Poor Blackie. And poor Bitsy. I know cats can get heartbroken too if they lose their family. Hope everything turns out okay.

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  7. Praying for Blackie and for you!

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  8. Praying for Blackie and you. Joyce B

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  9. I am so sorry. Losing a pet is so, so hard. I wish I was there to just sit with you. You did the right thing, but boy is this hard.

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  10. Sending hugs, Cheryl...you loved Blackie and were so good to him. I feel your tears in your update. Love on Bits...he will miss his pal. Losing a pet is so hard.

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  11. Dear Cheryl, I am so very sorry for your loss. I know how you loved Blackie. Saying prayers for you and Bits.

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  12. (((Cheryl))), I know it was hard but it sounds like you were thinking of Blackies comfort right up to the end. You did the right thing and I am so glad your vet was so honest and caring. I know it is hard.
    Bits might need a bit more attention for a while.
    I will prayer for comfort for you and for Bits.
    JC

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  13. Cheryl, I am still here. Loved these last posts. I go to my cousin’s house for dinner on a Tuesday evening. I supply the meat/fish once a month(there are four of us for dinner) I also have dinner on Friday evening with my DD and SIL and we take turns in the buying of the meal. I really don’t do a menu plan each week if my daughter makes curry it does me twice. My other daughter has a fleece blanket for disposal so I will be taking that for my floor steamer. Thank you for that. Sylvia

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    1. Glad to see you post Sylvia. I have wondered where you were and hoping you were well. Sounds like you have a really good plan.
      That fleece will make a great many pads for your cleaner.

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  14. Ahh, so it was an easy choice but not a happy one. The Rainbow Bridge *MUST* be true or I (for one) will be heartbroken. I want to see my cats more than I want to see most people. Poor you, poor Bits. You made the caring decision I think.

    Blackie had a best year at the end - plenty of food, a warm house, snuggles, sun spots to sleep in, all the good things a cat wants.

    MaryB

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  15. Losing a pet is so hard. What a wonderful life that cat had, without a doubt he was one lucky cat. You have made a hard choice, but the best one.
    Take care of yourself and Bits, Louise

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  16. Awww Cheryl you have my deepest sympathy. Even though you couldn’t have done anything different the companionship Blackie showed you (and Bits)will be missed..change is inevitable but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t still break our hearts.

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  17. Oh Cheryl, I am so sorry about Blackie. They are such a big part of our lives, just like family. I know you will miss him dearly. Hugs to you my friend.

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  18. Cheryl, so sorry to about Blackie. You gave him a wonderful life. Making the decision for our beloved animals is so hard. I've had to do it three times over the years. But it is the right and kindest decision. Take good care of yourself and Bits. Sending you hugs. Cookie

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  19. Hugs, Cheryl.

    So sorry.

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  20. I am sorry to hear about Blackie. He loved you and you loved him.

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  21. I am so sorry to read about Blackie. His life was wonderful with you and I know you will miss him greatly. Bits will be a comfort to you and you will be a comfort to Bits.

    God bless.

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  22. Cheryl... you don't know me ....I'm a lurker. But wanted to share with you:

    In 2021, my family experienced great loss. My 2 was eldest elders died a week apart, beautiful blessing, but bittersweet.

    My dad's brother was killed in a motorcycle accident by a drunk driver. My mom's sister died after months of horrific hospital endurance.

    15 family members got covid at same time due to funeral. Overall we just had the blues.

    New Year's Eve Eve, my little minion was brutally ripped open by a neighbor dog. I just fell to pieces. Thought I might need therapy. Felt guilty that I was actually crying more over this than all the pain of the year.

    Then I remembered...my beautiful mother in law told me that she cried more over losing her dog than her husband.

    I know it's not the same hurt, but sometimes pain hits when our limits are small.

    I healed quicker than I expected from my little Frantisek. The first time I realized the pain had left my spirit...I also realized that he had taken any pain I'd ever had in life....took it with him wherever he went.

    I pray this for you. Grieve, as hard and as long as you need. But heal. I pray that Blackie gathers up your heartache and you feel happy.

    Stacy in Texas

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    1. Thank you for sharing that story. I am so very sorry for all the losses you have endured.
      Those little fur babies we love are with us 24/7 and give such unconditional love all the time. It is so very hard.
      What a lovely way to look at it. Sadly, I have been through this too many times. They never leave out heart - but time does heal the soul. Thank you.

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  23. Oh such a heartbreak, I am sorry you have lost your cat. It is so hard to say goodbye but you, I hope, can be settled in your heart that you gave him the best life he had, and was loved to the end. Now a period of adjustment, I am glad you have another fur baby. You will need each other. Our pets leave footprints on our hearts.

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  24. We never have enough time with them…Hugs to you.

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  25. Hugs! You made the right decision!

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  26. Oh, Cheryl I am so sorry about Blackie.You will be in my thoughts and prayers Carol

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  27. So sorry for your loss -- Hope you feel comforted by the good life you gave him to know he was with friends - a wonderful gift to impart to our animal families.

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  28. How lucky Blackie was to find you, and you him. My prayers are with you. CndyWV

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  29. Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this news Cheryl. Our fur babies are just that, our babies, and they bring so much joy into our lives.
    My Sami had a similar issue with cancer in her mouth. The vet told me that they could operate but typically the cancer comes back even worse. As hard as it was to let her go, I knew for her sake I couldn't put her through any more suffering.
    ((((Hugs)))).

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  30. Oh, so sorry for your loss. But you did the best for him. Cancer is mean and agressive and it takes our pets so quickly, that it's never easy to accept. But I think you did right by him in so many ways.

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  31. Cheryl, Prayers for you it was not an easy thing to do. But you know she is not suffering. Losing a pet is so hard. Blackie knew she was loved and cared well for they show you that everyday. Take care. Joyce B

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  32. I'm so sorry for your loss, Cheryl. I know Blackie's life was so much better because of you and the wonderful way you took care of him and loved him.

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  33. THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR THE KIND WORDS!!!!!!!
    It means so much to me. I know my big boy is no longer in pain, that is a relief in itself. Bitsy and I loving on each other.
    THANK YOU!

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  34. Cheryl, I am so sorry for your loss of Blackie. You loved him and he loved you right back. I feel bad for Bits also. Our furb-abies do mourn also.

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  35. Cheryl, I'm so sorry for the loss of Blackie. You definitely gave him a good life and he gave love to you.

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  36. Oh I am SO so sorry for your loss! You did well by your fur baby, and I know they felt your love.

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  37. I am SO sorry to hear this. It is never easy and we always second guess the decisions that we make for them. I still tear up when I think of Jet. You didn't let Blackie suffer and that is the most important thing. You gave him a great life and he knew he was loved. Big hugs to you.

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  38. I’m so, so sorry, Cheryl😢💔 I’m glad you have Bits to cuddle with. Words fail, but I will be praying for your broken heart🙏🏻
    Mary in OK

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  39. I am so sorry for your loss. It's very difficult having to make that final decision to let them go. You gave him a wonderful home and everything that he needed but that doesn't take away the pain. Diane (My daughter just said goodbye to her dog with lung cancer a week ago today...lots of tears).

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  40. Oh dear Cheryl, I'm so sorry to hear about Blackie ! I know how hard it is to have to do that. I have had to as well and still sleep with a pillow where miss kitty used to sleep next to me for 14 years. Big hugs to you and many prayers that your broken heart is healed 🙏
    Love gaila in the NW

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  41. Cheryl, I am sad to hear about Blackie. While it is good to know the love and care he had in his senior year, it is still so hard. My prayers go out to you, and hope he has found new playmates across the Rainbow bridge already. Hilogene in Az

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  42. Sorry to hear your sad news. Always hard to lose a beloved pet. XXXXX Maureen in MO

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  43. I am so sorry for the loss of your pet. You gave him wonderful care and love. Prayers for God's peace and comfort for you. Terry

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