Minimalism is about living with less. Well, we all tend to think of our homes and our things when we think of this word. It can be so much more! We need to have minimalism in our thoughts and ways as well!!! We sure do. Our minds and lives are so cluttered, that it is often difficult to have a mindful thought. This is something we all need to work on.
This part of minimalism has nothing to do with money!
We need a HEALTHY ROUTINE & HABITS
Eat well - food can be our friend in so many ways
No junk food - it does NO good for anyone
Turn things off - unplug!!!!!! Stop listening and watching the negative
Enjoy the moment - it may be all you get - make it happy and good
Do a nice thing for someone else each day
Live in the present - not the past. You can't change the past - but you can possibly change today!
Learn to say no - be picky of what you choose in your day
Spend each day with the BEST choice
You don't have to cave in to everyone - be mindful
Give yourself QUALITY time - you deserve it!
3 THINGS TO PONDER
True - Necessary - Kind -- These three things are important. Ask yourself these 3 things about whatever you hear, speak, or do. IF you answer NO to any of them - then stop and don't speak or do them.
If it isn't true or isn't necessary or isn't kind - it has NO place in your life!!!!!!!!!!!!
Take time to slow down and ponder things and think before acting or speaking. So many speak harsh words to others these days and think it is OK. IT IS NOT! I don't care why you think it is ok - one bad experience does not deserve another. Be bigger than that. Do not spread the venom!!!!!!
You can reduce your stress, just by being more mindful.
Stop the negative and give your mind and body more internal space for PEACE and HAPPINESS and JOY.
Stuff happens - many times we cannot stop it. It isn't always good, it isn't always kind - but it is an experience that helps you grow in some way.
So embrace it - go forward and grow from it. Be better than you were yesterday and show someone else a gentler way to think and live.
JUST BE HAPPY
Have a blessed day!
Excellent! We need to be mindful, not react without thinking. Negativity is not your friend, only your enemy. "A gentler way to think and live"...true words!
ReplyDeleteLooks like we may get a touch of rain. I need to go out and put away some things from yesterday. Was planning on working to make a dent in the mess in the flower bed. And thin the turnips...
Enjoy your day! You are a bright spot in my day!
Yes, we need to think and act with good intentions! so many don't. We need to be the light.
DeleteThank you my friend. Have a great day - and don't drizzled on!!!!!
This is a great post Cheryl. I try very hard to live this way. I always remind myself that I can only control what I do and how I respond to people and situations.
ReplyDeleteThanks. Yes - we are the only ones that can control our actions. I want the world to be a better place - so trying to live by a good example for it. Enjoy your day!
Delete"Be better than you were yesterday and show someone else a gentler way to think and live."
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for this post today, Cheryl. It means more than you will ever know. My Sis called this morning. Our younger brother called her and our mom to let them know our oldest brother passed away. He was 70. He hadn't spoken to mom for a decade. He hadn't spoken to just about anyone in the family for years, including his only son. He lived alone. Was bitter. Angry.
Please pray for my mom, who is (as anyone would expect), devastated. She was crying so hard she couldn't even speak.
Each and every morning brings a new day to do/be better than the day before. It's different for each person, but it's a GIFT. Even on days when we're tired or grumpy and it doesn't feel like it's wrapped in colorful, glossy paper with a big bow on top. My love and continued prayers for each person reading today. May God bless you all. --Elise
I am so very sorry for your family's loss. No matter how long or the distance - they are still kin. All in the world you can hope is that maybe someday you will all be reunited together in heaven and be happy and joyful to see each other. I do hope that is the case for him.
DeleteYour poor mom - that has to be just awful for her. It is hard to imagine that anger and bitterness or whatever, can tear apart a family - but it does. Prayers for you all. Huge hugs.
Oh Elise, I'm so sorry about your little brother, your poor mother....How horrible.
DeleteThank you, Cheryl and Amelia. My big brother had... a lot of issues. Cheryl, I know you experienced something similar not long ago. A family member on the outs with everyone; when they pass, it's an odd kind of grief.
DeleteThe very GOOD news today is BIL made an offer on a house, the sellers countered and he accepted! It's a nice place near national forest and is empty. He just wants to clean and paint before moving in. He's excited and very happy. I'm happy about it, too.
So... it was a very mixed kind of day. --Elise
Yes, it makes for difficult times and a lot of mixed feelings. It is a sad situation.
DeleteYAY - how wonderful - has to be a sigh of relief just knowing it won't be long - and you will have your home back for just you and hubs!!!!!!
I know how it is when our family members, when my precious dad died it was a very strange situation, it would be a novelette to write here but he was very deceived by someone you would least expect who kept him far away from us. It was a nightmare. I still remember walking into that hospital room (we were clued in by someone) far away and telling him goodbye...Horrible. I'm still shaken by it in many ways and I miss him dearly, things could have been so much different. God is with me though and He has shown His protection in many ways...but I miss my dad too and God gets that. : ) All that to say, I know how your mom and your family must feel. Death is hard enough let alone extra dimensions, bad choices that were already grieving us.
DeleteSO glad your BIL got a new home! And it's so nice he's happy and excited about it too! Win win! Thank God for answered prayers! : )
Your Dad's situation sounds tragic, Amelia. In many ways this is, too. No one in the family knows the details of big brother's death; I'm not sure there'll be a funeral. His son and only child, on FB, didn't even know how old he was. How sad is that?
DeleteAs for BIL, all the advice I received here led to a talk that turned everything around. I'll credit you all, the Lord, and BIL himself for being open to words that were surely hard to hear, but said in love. He's even picking up after himself and buying a few groceries!!! It felt awkward to share so much (again, my apologies to readers), but advice and prayer worked! BIG hugs. --Elise
How sad for you all, having lost big brother without ever the chance for making up. Must have really hurt your mom who no doubt was thinking of the baby boy he once was oh so sad...
DeleteGlad BIL has found a place, hope the days pass quickly and he'll be able to move soon. :)
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Oh Elise...Oh that breaks my heart, his only child. That is sad but sounds like very bad choices were made. I'm an only child too...It's extremely tough on certain things.
DeleteSo glad the Lord used people here to help with the situation with bil. That touches my heart that he humbly listened to your husband. That was tough I'm sure.
Cheryl, Very good reminders! Just today there were a few times when I could have gotten down and I had to catch myself and think upon my blessings. Just this morning our little grandson who I played Candyland and pick up sticks with tells me on the phone..."I wuv you Mimi" and when I told him Bobo would pick him up on the 'mule' (gator type vehicle) he said..."Thank youuuu!!!!"
ReplyDeleteSo how can i complain? Sometimes we have to get our rears in gear in the thoughts and not dwell on things that make us sad or mad, (Talking to me here). We better scratch our heads and get glad! lol
Have a sweet evening. God bless you Cheryl...
Amen. Watch special and sweet words. Nothing like a 'wuv you', a hug or a smooch to make it all A-OK. We need to reach out and grab those moments and hold tight. They grow up so fast and we lose people so fast. It is all so short and fleeting - make each day wonderful!
DeleteAmen, Amelia. Hugs to you! --Elise
DeleteSuch a good post Cheryl, just what I needed to hear today. Hope you have a good week!
DeleteThank you Elaine. I am glad it maybe helped a little. Have a blessed day!
DeleteA lovely post Cheryl, lots of good things to consider, and a good reminder that we all need at times.
ReplyDeleteI read all your posts to my 96 year old neighbour, Linda. She is a very special person in my life, she has taught me all about being frugal and a million other things besides. I have even commented on her behalf once when you had your piece about being storm prepared.
Anyway, after your lovely words about your husband, she wondered how you two met. If it isn’t invading your privacy too much could you please quell an old ladies curiosity and tell us how you two met. Louise.
Louise that is so neat that you read the posts to your neighbor. I feel very special.
DeleteNo problem! I had moved into a new apartment complex, for no real good reason at the time. I just wanted to move. Well, low and behold, there was this guy that lived upstairs!!!! I thought he was handsome, but he had a girlfriend. One evening I was sitting out on my patio (I was ground floor), and he came home. As he walked by, we said hi - and he said "did you know me and my girlfriend broke up?". Well, being the nice neighbor - I said "oh really, please have a seat and tell me all about it".
That was that! We saw each other every single day from then on!!!! So I guess you could say he showed up on my door step!! I had always swore I would never marry again. The day after I met him, I called my mom and told her I met the man I was going to spend my life with. The rest is history. He asked 3 months later, and we were married within 6 months of meeting.
A whirlwind love that lasted! We were together 33 years when he passed.
Thanks for asking, I love telling that story!!!!!!
Tell Miss Linda hello!!!!
Oh that is such a romantic story, she will love it, her guess was you met at a dance. Thank you for sharing. Louise
Delete(Little Penpen) great post, great advice!
ReplyDeleteThank you. So glad to see you!!!!!!! Missed you!
DeleteI need to work harder on unplugging from the negative, especially as it relates to current events. My biggest obstacle has been FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) on important news I really do need to know about because of its impact on Husband's and my lives. I'm trying to bring myself around to the point of view of "What's the worst thing that can happen if I don't know?" I learned a new acronym yesterday: JOMO (Joy of Missing Out). For me, this is the feeling of being outside the media storm and not caring what you're missing out on. I need to work on that.
ReplyDeleteI like the JOMO idea!!!!! You know I have gotten to the point that if really bad crap is coming - like end of the world - well, nothing I can do about it! I know where I will go - and that is OK with me! I do listen to the weather - for the bad stuff - but try to stay away from a lot of news. I do see headlines on the computer, and I watch local news each morning (mainly for weather) - but that is it. The powers that be are going to continue to do what they want regardless of how we feel - so not much I can do about that. I just keep living the way I have (always prepared for whatever) and I pray, and that is all I can do.
DeleteI do need to adopt JOMO more!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks
Hey Cheryl. Did I end up in your spam folder?
ReplyDeleteNo mam you did not - I did check!
DeleteDang! I wrote on this topic too. Thanks for checking!
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