Today I am going to tell you a story. It is a true story and a sad sort of story.
FIRST - background.
I live in an older (1947) neighborhood. It is mostly quiet. It is older but nice. Everyone takes care of their homes and yards. We are mainly an over 50 (age) neighborhood - with the exception of about 4-5 families. Our block is a very long block and our houses are fairly close to each other. We front porch sit, we 'fence' talk, and most everyone has pets.
Peace has been the normal for years.
The house 2 doors down from me, seems to have trouble keeping people. When people rent there - we have not had good luck. There is almost always something that happens there. It is a nice well kept house and the rent isn't cheap. (Realize we do have several rentals around and they are all long timers). Personally, I think the house is being 'haunted' (so to speak) by the original homeowner. She was very particular - but she was a nasty/hateful woman. She died there. It seems there is just bad energy there.
OK - now up to date.
We have a woman and her 3 children (approx. 8, 11, and 14) and her boyfriend living there since March 1. MOST of the time the kids are ok - but other times they are a horror story! They can be so disrespectful and they cause fights with other kids. These kids ALWAYS start it. (there were never fights before EVER). The language that comes from their mouths is horrid!!!!! They are OK as long as an adult is home - but often both adults are both gone.
Mind you, it has become known that the boyfriend is an abuser (to them all). She has been with him 6 years. He has lost 4 jobs since living here (March). He has cut grass twice since March!
They young couple next door have kind of become confidants to the kids. That is good - they need someone to turn to. So we all hear the stories. We all try to be kind to the kids and speak nicely to them and use moments to 'teach'.
Sunday the young couple was camping (I watch the dog). The kids were home alone. I am in my house on the phone and hear all kinds of commotion outside (2 doors down). The person on my phone call even asked if everything was ok. (that loud).
I hang up and decide to go out and adult!!! These kids and some from the next block were carrying on. The other kids were there - though not being loud or abusive. I went out on porch and told them to leave and told the neighbor kids to be quiet and get inside.
20 minutes later - it all starts again (this is the worst altercation since they have been here). Younger boy had a metal baseball bat and 11 year old had a hammer. Older girl was in the street screaming at the other kids and name calling and cussing. The other kids even said that a knife had been pulled on them as well.
I tell the other kids to get home or I would go talk to their parents and I would call the police on ALL of them. Well, they left and haven't been back! (smart kids). The other kids, started giving me grief. I told them this crap was going to stop and it was going to stop now. Threatening people and carrying on like that in what WAS a peaceful neighborhood, wasn't going to tolerated any more. Next time I will call the police! Older girl was like "so - go ahead". I told them I was going to talk with the adults when they got home. She says "Mom is almost home". Knowing myself I would NEVER say anything to the boyfriend - I said how about I talk to the man of the house. "Mom is almost home" kept being said!
Mom shows up and doesn't even get out of car until the girl is at the car screaming - "we didn't do anything, they started it, not our fault...….." AND "that mean old b**^^ said she would call the police". They then get in the car and Mom drives off - she really didn't want to talk to me!!
Yep - guess that it my new title!!! "Mean old b**^^".
Mom sees me standing in the drive. Does she tell the kids to be quiet - no. Does she come and ask me what happened - no. Does she tell her daughter not to talk like that - no. Does she apologize to me for what her child has said - no.
I don't really care - I just know this whole situation is so sad. These kids have been raised to think this kind of behavior is ok and normal. There is no discipline from Mom whatsoever. IF there is discipline from boyfriend - it is REALLY BAD (from what we hear).
I can't tell you how creepy all the neighbors think he is. Like wouldn't be surprised if there were bodies in the basement creepy!!!!!
I tell you IF anyone one of us actually witness him do something bad to those kids - police and CPS will be called. No one here is going to tolerate that. We just haven't actually witnessed it.
I guess my point is - this is my quiet little neighborhood. One family - managing to disturb the peace of it all. Just one - stop and think how many times and how many families this is in reality!! This happens all over the place. MAYBE this is why so much bad stuff is happening every where.
I just wish parents would parent, and teach their children respect and manners and teach them to be good people.
So sad. The whole situation is sad.
Sadly, many people came out of their houses and were standing on porches watching and listening and nobody else said or did anything. That saddened me - why wouldn't you stand up to and for kids?
If standing up to these little bullies (and obviously big ones) and reaching out to parents and even police brings back peace to the neighborhood - I guess I will wear the badge of MEAN OLD B**^^ proudly!
Keep your eyes open and reach out when possible. You just may be the one that can make a difference.